The difference between a Cyber Stalker and a Cyber Bully What is the difference between a cyber stalker and a cyber bully – The differences are minimal except the cyberstalker is irrationally obsessed with finding out more information about you which they then twist and manipulate to get what they want and the cyberbully is usually referred to when a child or teen is involved like the bully at school – which is no less distressing.

Basically they are both under the headline of Online Harassment or Cyber Harassment and when this is repeated over and over to the victim it can be very distressing or annoying.

The difference between a cyber stalker and a cyber bully

Cyberstalkers

I found an interesting article today from net for beginners which described a cyberstalker and from  my experience, this is spot on – I would go to describe this person just as this.

Cyberstalking is a very serious form of online harassment. At one level, cyberstalking is much like cyberbullying, as it involves the sending of repeated annoying and unwelcome messages. But cyberstalking goes far beyond cyberbullying in terms of motivations and tactics. Cyberstalking involves a disturbed obsession with the target, and a perverse desire to control that target in some way, even by attacking the target’s family members. Cyberstalkers do not wish to just torment someone for an adolescent power rush… stalkers want to force the target into some kind of submission, and are willing to involve other targets to achieve that disturbed result. 

CyberStalkers might involve your place of work, sending emails telling them how awful you are – stalking places where you like to relax or play a game, the networks you frequent and even your friends or colleagues, picking on them too.   They might screenshot what you say to threaten you or produce nasty pictures of you posting these to other networks to scare you into shutting up or doing what they want.  This can go on for months and months, or years if they are truly deranged.  Sometimes they don’t even think they are doing wrong!?

It is normal to have disagreements with people, maybe row with them, or lash out in anger if they have hurt you in someway but we make up and its forgotten for the Cyber Bully or Cyber Stalker, it doesn’t stop they are OBSESSED.

Cyberbullies 

Sometimes called Technobullying  – Bullies tend to be someone you know or knew even your ex best friend – They spread rumours, lies, send threats, even go as low to blackmail people or steal identities.

This is how Stop cyber bullying describes cyberbullying

“Cyberbullying” is when a child, preteen or teen is tormented, threatened, harassed, humiliated, embarrassed or otherwise targeted by another child, preteen or teen using the Internet, interactive and digital technologies or mobile phones. It has to have a minor on both sides, or at least have been instigated by a minor against another minor. Once adults become involved, it is plain and simple cyber-harassment or cyberstalking. Adult cyber-harassment or cyberstalking is NEVER called cyberbullying.

Bully.co.uk says this

Cyber bullying is any form of bullying which takes place online or through your mobile phone.

Complaints to Bullying UK show that most vicious gossip and rumours are spread by people who were once your best friends so it’s best to keep secrets to yourself. Only tell people things if it wouldn’t embarrass you if other people found out about them. Posting false and malicious things about people on the internet can be harassment.

Anyone who makes threats to you on the internet could be committing a criminal offence. It’s against the law in the UK to use the phone system – which includes the internet – to cause alarm or distress.

Are we forgetting trolls? 

Even though Trolls are still included in the Online Harassment area – I don’t think Trolls are in the same league as Cyber bullies or Cyber Stalkers – Trolls just prance around the internet – trying to start arguments or provoke an emotional response from you.  This is why the saying goes DONT FEED THE TROLLS because trolls, will usually just move on to the next target if they don’t get a response from you, you have bored them.  No Fun for them.  Where as Cyber Stalkers, are much worse, much more obsessed and disturbed they keep on and on, looking at your profiles trying so hard to find something to catch you out with or checking to see if they have got to you.

I read a post about Troll Threats By Casey Quinlan recently which in the end points out that trolls want is our silence and what we need to do is to feed them until they burst – which I found amusing and that some retribution could come of it – and in this case it did make a lot of sense. However, I personally wouldn’t call the Lindy West troll a troll at all, I would call this guy a Cyber Stalker as he not only stalked her in the article everyday for 3 years to call her names using various networks even email – but he also created a fake account in the name of her Dad to hurt her even further – he wasn’t going away by being ignored – in the end the lady confronted him and well, to cut the story short here he admitted to her after she confronted him.

I think my anger towards you stems from your happiness with your own being. It offended me because it served to highlight my unhappiness with my own self.

I have e-mailed you through 2 other gmail accounts just to send you idiotic insults.

I apologize for that.

The difference between a cyber stalker and a cyber bully

I’m not sure if all Online Harassers are broken, some just think its funny, its not funny – and no one in their right mind would continue a vendetta for months and months or years as we’ve read unless they are mentally challenged in someway – they should seek help before they get into trouble, put in jail or to hurt a victim so much that they end their life. Cyber Bullying and Suicide

If you are being harassed online, which ever name you want to put on it please please tell someone – if you are young then tell a parent immediately – do not be afraid, the time has come now where almost everyone has been or knows someone that has been through this, we all know that they are evil and you are the victim.

Read, What to do if you are being bullied 

Don’t let bullies destroy your self-esteem. No one deserves to be harassed. Cyberbullies’ cowardly and destructive actions are often more about their own problems than they are about you. When bullying gets you down, talk about it with someone you trust who can build you back up.

There are a number of websites that you can go to for help and support.

The best advice I can give is to BLOCK and REPORT everything you see about you, and keep a diary of things that you do see, or hear but hopefully if you have blocked them and don’t go looking they won’t win. Its against most networks rules or terms of use so reporting them to the network or website can get them kicked off of the sites. (If they are especially disturbed or obsessed they will just create a new account to keep harassing people online but you keep blocking) It doesn’t matter what The difference between a Cyber Stalker and a Cyber Bully is or even a Troll – the same applies, its all wrong.  Its not you its them!

Good Luck and don’t them them get to you!